Authentic Connection & Trust!
The trading floor, where I spent the first decade of my career, is a battleground. Most standard societal norms cease to exist when one finds herself working on a trading floor. In my first job as an interest rate sales analyst at Lehman Brothers, my boss told me that I was not allowed to use articles (i.e., couldn’t say the words “the”, “a”, “an”) because “it wasted time and time is money.” My role was to execute multi-million-dollar transactions on behalf of clients (banks, hedge funds, pension funds.) If I made even one mistake, it could cost the firm and my traders millions of dollars within seconds. Speed, precision, and excellence were nonnegotiable. My days could consist of up to 100 transitions within an eight-hour period, considerable market fluctuations, and a range of emotions wide enough to put a Shakespearean play to shame.
Understanding differences and connecting authentically
Right now, many of us, including myself, are feeling triggered and charged up. 2020 has been a year that is testing our resolve, our grit, our self-image, and our ability to grow. For some, this is a time to check in with our biases, and for others it is a time to have painful and difficult conversations, to educate and to be educated, to listen and be heard. While I am sad and worried, I am also incredibly hopeful. I genuinely believe that as a society, we will have the potential to thrive and use this painful moment to grow.
Increasing Certainty and Connection When your Team Feels Anxious
Over the past few weeks, I have heard from many leaders that leading through COVID19 has become more challenging. As a senior or mid-level leader, the COVID19 pandemic is truly challenging their ability to lead. We are all working remote and there are so many unknowns and fears.
Neurologically when we are facing a threat to our way of being we crave certainty and connection more than anything and this is exactly what we can’t have right now. What can you do as a leader to help combat the feeling of threat amongst members of your team and organization?
Holiday Party Hacks – How to Make the Most of your Company Holiday Gathering
If you haven’t had your company holiday party yet, I am sure it’s this week or next. When I think back to some of the work holiday parties I have attended, I think of most of them fondly (well except maybe that one party that cemented me as a “light-weight” all too early in my career).
While some people dread these forced-fun events even more than a trip to the dentist, I always find them to be an opportunity to end the year on a strong note and connect with people you otherwise couldn’t build a close relationship with.
The Year I Had Twins was my Best Year in Business (So Far ;)
I will never forget the moment I found out I was expecting twins, the moment that I learned that I was going to go from being a mom of 1 fantastic kid to a total of 3 kids! That moment will be forever buried in my mind, not for the joy and excitement I was supposed to feel, but for the heart-wrenching fear and dread, I experienced. And the truth is the fear wasn’t because twin pregnancies have more complications or the fact that so many twins are born prematurely with a multitude of health issues. Nope, my fear, I hate to admit, was selfish – my heart sank into my heals because I was worried about the success of my career and my business that I had been working so hard to build over the past 15 years.
Tension at work? Ask a dog how to ease it!
I wish I could say that I have never experienced tension at work, but let’s get real here. Competition, deadlines, hierarchy, and differing interests create complicated and tense relationships at work. The good news is that you have the power to decrease this tension and win people over.
Wanna influence someone? Start telling stories!
I have a two year old son. Well, actually he is almost 3 but I’m going to stay in denial as long as possible. Right around his second birthday, without any warning, my sweet little baby turned into an opinionated and persistent little DUDE. The “terrible twos” have been in full effect in our house.
How to get the most out of your summer intern
Our two summer interns started last week. We are a small company and feel vulnerable every time we bring someone into our little nucleus and open our business up to them.
Beware! These toxic thoughts are success killers.
No matter who you are or what you do I am willing to bet that if you are having any of these thoughts below then you are holding yourself back from achieving great success. As an executive coach, I am fortunate to work with and get in the brilliant minds of the brightest and most success executives on Wall Street and beyond. Like the rest of us, my clients have insecurities that we work on recognizing and banishing them from their minds. Here is the list of thoughts that are surprisingly common and are the greatest offenders to our success