Understanding differences and connecting authentically
Right now, many of us, including myself, are feeling triggered and charged up. 2020 has been a year that is testing our resolve, our grit, our self-image, and our ability to grow. For some, this is a time to check in with our biases, and for others it is a time to have painful and difficult conversations, to educate and to be educated, to listen and be heard. While I am sad and worried, I am also incredibly hopeful. I genuinely believe that as a society, we will have the potential to thrive and use this painful moment to grow.
The Year I Had Twins was my Best Year in Business (So Far ;)
I will never forget the moment I found out I was expecting twins, the moment that I learned that I was going to go from being a mom of 1 fantastic kid to a total of 3 kids! That moment will be forever buried in my mind, not for the joy and excitement I was supposed to feel, but for the heart-wrenching fear and dread, I experienced. And the truth is the fear wasn’t because twin pregnancies have more complications or the fact that so many twins are born prematurely with a multitude of health issues. Nope, my fear, I hate to admit, was selfish – my heart sank into my heals because I was worried about the success of my career and my business that I had been working so hard to build over the past 15 years.
Struggle to delegate? Three behaviors to watch out for
My first job out of undergrad was on the Lehman Brothers interest rate sales desk. I sat on a trading floor amongst some of the best financial professionals who transacted multi-million dollar deals on a daily basis. The work was incredibly stressful and required a tremendous amount of attention to detail and accuracy. If you made a mistake, it typically cost at least $50,000. I worked in a team consisting of 3 senior salesmen, an associate with three years of experience and myself – a clueless college grad. At first, no one trusted me to do much of anything except get coffee and make copies. Over time, I began to take on more client facing responsibilities (writing trade confirms, answering phones and writing market commentary). Executing one of those multi-million dollar trades was off limits though. I didn’t have the skills yet, and no one was interested in losing money due to my lack of experience.
Five things you didn't realize you should be grateful for...
If you are anything like me, you probably have been thinking about all that you are grateful for this year. Below are 5 more items you didn't realize you should be grateful for. Enjoy!
5 Impactful Tips That I Have Shared with My Clients
In the past several months, my work has taken me all over the country (shout out to DC, Milwaukee, Palo Alto, Chicago and of course, NYC – thank you for your hospitality). I have had the pleasure of meeting, coaching and training professionals in the legal, fina nce, retail and non-profit industries. Some of my clients came to me hoping to achieve strong relationships with their teams and managers; others were focused on starting their new jobs on a strong note with high levels of executive presence and others on the ever difficult to obtain work-life balance as a parent.
Performance Review Giving You Anxiety?
Many of you have told me that you are dreading your upcoming performance review OR that your recent review is stressing you out! It seems that you never feel like you get any meaningful information from the review, and you are more confused after your review happens than before.
Wanna influence someone? Start telling stories!
I have a two year old son. Well, actually he is almost 3 but I’m going to stay in denial as long as possible. Right around his second birthday, without any warning, my sweet little baby turned into an opinionated and persistent little DUDE. The “terrible twos” have been in full effect in our house.
Shocker! When you self-promote you actually help others
As a career coach, I work with clients who are top professionals in their fields. Despite their accomplishments and the desire to have more visibility in their careers, many struggle with self-promotion and self-advocacy. They come to me hoping to learn to articulate their value proposition and accomplishments to key stakeholders (i.e. managers, prospective employers, clients) without being perceived as boastful or bragging.
Criticism! Three steps to prevent it from stressing you out
Criticism! Three steps to prevent it from stressing you out
Beware! These toxic thoughts are success killers.
No matter who you are or what you do I am willing to bet that if you are having any of these thoughts below then you are holding yourself back from achieving great success. As an executive coach, I am fortunate to work with and get in the brilliant minds of the brightest and most success executives on Wall Street and beyond. Like the rest of us, my clients have insecurities that we work on recognizing and banishing them from their minds. Here is the list of thoughts that are surprisingly common and are the greatest offenders to our success